VPS Info : Running Out Of Sockets

I had never experienced a server other then a dedicated. I decided to use a VPS. I have migrated a few of my accounts on the VPS.

I am experiencing alot of problems. The server keeps running out of sockets. The provider as increase the sockets limits to the maximum.

At first they told me that platinum management had installed some script while hardening the server that was causing the services to stop responding because too many sockets were used.

I agreed to them rebuilding the VPs, them doing the hardening.

Now, same problem. Too many sockets. Every 6 hours I have to open a ticket and ask to do something so that my server becomes functionnal again.

Now they say that it must be a script I am using on the server. I ask them to track that script, and they say the cannot I must list all active script on server.

Now, Im already a bit upset because their definition of fully managed is not what I have come to expect with other provider. For them being fully managed is they will do anything I ask but wont do any proactive task. Even restart the server when it has failed. On top of that, their control panel is not half working and always gives 404 or jams my computer. So Im in the dark, because ssh is not accessible.

I am asking, how can I verify if the node im on is Oversold?

Is their a way to track sockets usage?