ADULT Hosting - A Few Specific Questions

I had a few specific questions about ADULT hosting. I've been refining an idea I had for an adult website after getting some good feedback from this site, but I had a few specific questions I still need addressed. If you think this forum is the wrong place to be asking about this, do you happen to know of any other forums that specialize in discussing adult web hosting?

My general plan is to set up a video-based adult site that charges people money (a monthly fee) to see the premium content. I have a general idea about my start-up investments, but not necessary how much each would cost, and I'm trying to put together a budget. If anyone could help me fill in some of these blanks I would really appreciate it!!

I'll need a lawyer to set up site disclaimers, contracts, etc. - I assume this will be a few hundred dollars - does this sound correct?

I need to build the site- this is where I'm not sure about costs. The general specifications are like any other adult website - users pay to register - so I would go with one of the established companies that deals with secure online credit card transactions - any ideas which ones are good? How much do they normally take?

Users then can watch the videos, rate and give feedback. Since I don't really know any programming besides HTML, I'm assuming I need to hire someone to build the site and make sure it is secure. I'm also assuming this will be the most expensive part of the investment. Can someone give me some estimates about this? Are there general templates online that I can use that will save money? Is guru.com a trusted place to hire programmers? Is this something I could do myself without spending years learning a new programming language? How DO I make the site secure, and how can I keep people from stealing my premium content and posting it on other sites? I'm obviously trying to make this as cheap as possible without sacrificing all the quality - but unfortunately I have thousands to invest and not tens of thousands (i don't know if this will be a problem or not).
Also - hosting. I was told that a popular adult video site will cost a fortune in bandwidth. If I'm charging a monthly membership fee I'm hoping that can offset the costs. Can someone recommend good, scalable adult video hosting - and give me a general idea about what kind of server I need, how much bandwidth etc. I figure since this is membership driven I can start small and then increase bandwidth depending on how many members join, so I'm always making a profit. Does that sound realistic?

Finally, can adult pay sites still make money today? Not just a couple bucks here and there, but enough so I can eventually quit my day job?

The wonderful feedback I got here before helped me to reshape my ideas, and now I'd like to begin the next steps. Thank you all very much again for ANY help you can give me - I sincerely appreciate all the generous, knowledgeable people that make this forum a pleasure to visit!