Replacement For Easy CGI Web Hosting

As many of you may have also experienced, Easy CGI went from being one of the best hosts (I had them for 7 years and they were great), to one of the worst. They migrated to new servers and literally destroyed our site, lost data, did a search and replace of our code (yes, this actually happened), and brought our sites down completely. After about 100 hours of on-line support, chat, phone calls, emails, etc. we have to move on.

The things that were great (prior to the debacle) about EasyCGI was the Windows hosting, fast performance (FTP access was great), and the controls that were available.
I'm finding it difficult to match what we used to have. I've tried GoDaddy's VPS packages and that was a complete bust due to FTP performance (would have literally taken us months to just upload our web site ... about 10 GB total).

I tried Network Solutions, but they are only Linux and although they told us they support ASP Upload, ASP Email, and a number of other controls, now tell us that those are not supported.

I've also tried APLUS.NET and 1AND1. Same peformance issues.

anyone have any recommendations for hosting that would meet these needs?

Windows (Virtual or Shared)
30 GB + disk space
Unlimited Email
Form Mailers (CDONTS or ASP Mail)
ASP / ASP.NET / AJAX
DSN with Microsoft Access databases
Ability to work with SQL Server (not MySQL) databases
ASP Upload (or similar) that can be coded in ASP to upload files
FAST PERFORMANCE
Unlimited FTP accounts (we create a folder and FTP account for each of our customers)
Unlimited (or very high) transfers monthly (~ 1000 GB/MO +)