SoftLayer / ThePlanet Equivalent In Europe

I am looking for a good dedicated server provider in Europe. Ideally I am looking for something similar to softlayer or theplanet but in the EU.

three things that are important for us and do not seem to be offered by many providers:

- Ability to do automated secure (connection initiated by the backup device) offsite backups via eVault or r1soft.

- Ability to add additional servers in the future (e.g. separate db server) as part of our "internal" network (this is: any traffic between our servers would count as internal traffic and not against our bandwith limits). E.g. Softlayer by default and for free gives you your own virtual private network and you can add new servers as need arises.

- ability to upgrade configurations and have the ability to customize our hardware setup.

other than the above we need cPanel/whm, a trustworthy company, good support, option for managed or unmanaged service.

any suggestions?